It is known that in this day and age, one of the most difficult and common thing that a person will have to go through in their life is a divorce. When we first start a relationship that eventually progresses to marriage, there are high hopes that this person is going to be the one that you can grow old with and spend the rest of life with. This is truly a lofty goal, as the divorce rate is said to be well above the rate of marriages that last forever. I feel that divorce is constantly looming over every marriage, no matter how long it has lasted. It could happen as soon as a year after a marriage and it could even happen after 50 years of marriage. Just today, my friend was telling me about how his elderly parents were talking about getting a divorce. Marriage is simply not something that is meant to last it seems. If one or both people in a marriage decide that it is time to call it quits, then it is also time to hire a divorce lawyer. There are many things that you should be looking for when choosing a divorce lawyer if you want your divorce to happen smoothly.
First of all, you should definitely go with a lawyer that has a lot of experience with divorces. They will know what to look out for to make sure that you don’t get the raw end of the deal. Another requirement that you should have for a family law attorney is that they have a reputation for fairly representing their clients. This is especially important if there is a child custody battle going on in the divorce. You can simply never tell what kind of things your former spouse will accuse you of in order to make the custody hearings go in their favor. I have heard many horror stories of one or both people involved in a divorce making all manner of wild accusations against their former spouse to try and influence a judge into deeming them an unfit parent. For example, they could accuse you of physically, emotionally, or sexually abusing your children. A good custody lawyer will make sure to document everything that they possibly can about your fitness and past as a parent. They will do their best to fairly represent you and make sure that you get joint custody at the very least.
Divorce is going to be very hard on everyone involved in it, and this is especially true of the children. They often feel that not only are they caught in a tug-of-war, but they might also feel that they are somehow at fault for the events that are occurring. If you can do your best to assure them that this is not the case, and if you can remain the calm head in the divorce, there is a good chance that your lawyer will be able to aid you in being granted a majority of the custody.